Pleasure, Intimacy & Relationships Advice

Sexual FantasiesWhat Do They Mean?Erotic fantasies are as common as daydreaming. Imagining ourselves in a hot tryst with a (several) flight attendant(s), being desired by strangers at a sex party, doing unspeakable things with a celebrity crush, being punished by a cruel owner or getting paid for sexual acts we’d never do in real life…

Reignite Your Desire & Discover The Passion Within I know where you are when you’re struggling with low sex drive and low libido. You want to increase your desire and feel passion again. But, have you ever wondered why it’s perfectly acceptable not to like certain foods, activities, or experiences—yet when it comes to sex,…

Help! Our Sex Drives Don’t Match! Feeling Stuck When It Comes to Sex and Connection? You’re Not Alone. We live in a world more connected than ever, but somehow, many of us feel lonelier and less satisfied in our relationships. It’s frustrating. We have more freedom of choice than past generations could dream of, but…

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One of the most common reasons people seek my services is because they’re struggling—in their sex lives, relationships, or connection to their own bodies and pleasure. Not long ago, I received a DM on Instagram that said: “I saw your post about making sex great, and I realized that even though I love my partner,…

In the hustle of New York City life, it’s easy for intimacy to take a backseat. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, newly dating, or navigating intimacy as an individual, feeling disconnected can be disheartening. But here’s the good news: intimacy isn’t lost—it just needs a little attention. That’s where sex therapy comes in. What…

What does a sex therapist do?I get some very funny reactions when I am at dinner parties and people find out what my job is. So many  wonder what I actually do in my sessions, followed up quickly by;”What kind of people do you see?””What kinds of things do they want to talk about?”The truth…

Are You Working Smarter—or Just More?Yesterday, at a business meeting in NYC, a colleague proudly shared how an app helped him get up two hours earlier to work—more.More work? Really? It struck me how often we confuse productivity with grinding harder, not smarter. Waking up earlier to spend time on what truly matters—passions, joy, connection—makes…

Why Can’t I Come During Sex?*This article is referring exclusively to ciswomen & men”Why can’t I orgasm during sex?” She asks me…perplexed and bewildered.If I had a dollar for every time I was asked that question, I’d not only be laughing all the way to the bank, I’d also be making sure everybody knew what…

How To Have Great SexWhat makes sex great? People have been asking this question for aeons, but wonder no more. According to research, there are 8 crucial elements to optimal sex….and what’s not mentioned may surprise you.This is why there will never ever be a pill for great sex. You have it within you already.…

Help! I’m losing attraction to my partner!For a lot people in relationships, one thing that comes up often is the fear of what losing attraction to a partner implies. The thought of having to even ‘work’ to get it back feels daunting because so much of what culture teaches us is that love is effortless…

 Asking For What You WantWhat’s it like to ask for what you want? I mean to really let yourself be seen in your request?In sex and relationships, many of us hide behind wishes, implied or ignored, hoping that our needs will be met. We remain silent or drop hints about our desires and longings hoping the other…

10 Essential Tips for a Successful Open Relationship and Practicing PolyamoryOne of the biggest changes I have seen in the LGBTIQA+ communities is the interest in and increased visibility of open relationships. Open relationships inclduing polyamory, ethical non monogamy and other relationship diversities are romantic and/or sexual relationships that involve seeing one or more people…

Listening to Your Limits: How to Recognize and Set Healthy BoundariesMany people don’t recognize their boundaries until they’re crossed. Boundaries often reveal themselves through life experiences rather than introspection alone. We discover them in moments of discomfort, when we’re faced with situations that challenge our values and limits.This discomfort might show up as unease before…

Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?In fragile times, it’s often our most intimate and close relationships that suffer. Intimacy is the glue, the enhancer that gives us the drive to connect, and in many situations, also the factor that can be a passion killer for some and the straw that breaks the camel’s back.I have been reflecting…

Sex, Relationships & The Single PersonAre you tired of reading about sex and relationships advice that always centers partnered people and those in relationships? Me too.  So here I want to talk to the single people, because singles are often left out of discussions  of sex and relationships, not to mention the effects of living…

When a significant relationship has run its course, some of the pain we experience is about letting go of your own history, your shared story. A part of yourself ceases to be in the same form. This is its own special kind of grief.

Rough Sex Anyone?My current lover and I have been having quite rough sex. Hair pulling,  choking and slapping, etc. I am really enjoying it in the moment but afterwards feel a bit strange about it. He is very loving and respectful generally, but I worry I am betraying my feminist principles by allowing / enjoying…

Navigating Casual SexIt ain’t what you do, it’s the way that you do it.Not everyone is able to be (or wants to be) in a long-term relationship; monogamous or otherwise. More people are relying on casual sex, friends with benefits (FWB) type arrangements or irregular connections for sexual pleasure. People in a variety of age…

The Desire MythIf you could take a pill to make food you don’t like, enjoyable, would you take it?If you could take a pill to make yourself watch movies you didn’t like, would you do it?If you could take a pill to make grocery shopping more exciting, would you take it?If you don’t particularly like…

How to Have A Healthy RelationshipWith Valentine’s Day just around the corner, we are about to get bombarded with messages about creating the perfect Valentine’s Day date for your beloved. But the truth is, love isn’t nourished only one day a year. Love is an action. It’s a lifestyle. It’s a way of being in…

Sex & The Vagus Nerve Learn how working with body can reduce tension and help you have better sex. Many of us feel uncomfortable about sex. After all we liv in a culture that doesn’t respect it and doesn’t teach us much, but instead tells us it’s natural – we get tricked into thinking there’s nothing…

My Partner Cheated On Me. Now What?There’s no two ways about it. Being cheated on really hurts. While profoundly destabilizing, cheating is common both in marriages (estimated at 25%) and dating relationships (higher still). Even in non-monogamous relationships, people still may be inclined to cheat, bend the truth or even break the rules. The days…

I Cheated. Now What?What To Do When You’ve Had An Affair.No one likes to think of themselves as a cheater, yet conservative estimates suggest cheating happens in approximately 25% of marriages, with numbers being potentially greater in dating relationships. With those figures, it’s likely that you, your partner, or someone you know has been affected…