Tag: women

Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

Why Can’t I Come During Sex?*This article is referring exclusively to ciswomen & men”Why can’t I orgasm during sex?” She asks me…perplexed and bewildered.If I had a dollar for every time I was asked that question, I’d not only be laughing all the way to the bank, I’d also be making sure everybody knew what […]

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Less Sex, Bad Sex & Sex Tech

Less Sex, Bad Sex & Sex Tech Recent stats show that young people are having less sex than any generation before them. Despite the so called ‘sex recession’ there is no evidence to suggest that other adult generations are also hit by this decline in carnal activities. In fact to the contrary, those over 55 […]

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Is everything we believe about monogamy wrong?

Is everything we believe about monogamy wrong? Last night I attended Open Love NY’s panel / discussion event with Wednesday Martin (author of Untrue and Primates of Park Avenue) and Christopher Ryan (Sex At Dawn) discussing their respective books and the data that suggests humans are hardwired for non-monogamy. TL;DR – Looking at the history […]

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Where did my sex drive go?

Hi Cyndi, I am 23 years old and I’m facing a difficult moment sexually because I have lost my libido. I have no interest in sex and the worst is that I don’t enjoy it anymore. What are some ways I can get my libido back? (Ps: I’ve been on the pill for a couple […]

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Getting real about consent

GETTING REAL ABOUT CONSENT Consent is a buzz word these days. In sexuality education and sex positive circles it’s thrown around with gay abandon, while its definition and its processes are in continuous formation. We are still debating and describing in detail what it means and how it’s established. Many of us have recognised it’s […]

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How can I get more out of my sex life?

How can I get more out of my sex life?I teach people how to have sex – for a living! It’s the best job in the world.After all these years of erotic detective work, I have discovered what works.Common issues clients seek me out for include:orgasm problemslibido issueserection problems andmis-matched sex drives.People struggle talking about […]

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Women & That ‘Orgasm’ Problem

Women & That ‘Orgasm’ ProblemOne of the most frequently asked questions I get from women in my practice is about their ability to orgasm.Orgasm is the main outcome or goal many of us focus on when discussing sex. In terms of both language and culture it’s the  default used determine whether or not sex has been […]

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How Do I Give My Wife An Orgasm?

How Do I Give My Wife An Orgasm?Dear Cyndi,I am married, age 47, to date have not been able give my wife a single orgasm. Is there a single act where this can be achieved?CarlDear CarlThanks for your question. I often hear stories from men in my practice, about their inability, or at least a […]

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Masturbation; it’s not just for wankers!

Masturbation; it’s not just for wankers! Masturbation is a really important part of human sexuality. Despite its reputation as a selfish practice, masturbation can actually expand and enhance our erotic experiences with others. When we know more about how our body responds to touch and stimulation, the more likely we are able to access this […]

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