FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
First and foremost we identify your hopes and your problem/s then we work toward solutions. It’s amazing how many people try to change their sex/lives/relationships without first establishing the incentives or problems. I offer specialized perspectives on topics most clinicians are not trained in or shy away from. Unlike a lot of more traditional approaches, I help you reduce the mind / body split and get connected to your body, your senses and the birthright that is your erotic self. You were born this way and our work is designed to take you back home. I use various talk techniques as well as somatic (body-based) and emotional experiencing techniques as the tools for change. There is no explicit touch involved.
Sessions are focused on the here and now to help you develop skills and confidence where you need them most. Sometimes we look at history where knowledge from the past is holding you back in the present, but mostly we look at where you are today and where you want to be. I draw on a profound range of ideas, up-to-date clinical research and useful, transformative physical, mental and emotional practices to help you create a meaningful understanding of sex, pleasure and relationships in your life. If typical talk therapy leaves you feeling like you're going in circles with no action, you'll love working with me. We chat, we laugh, we talk about big stuff and practice incorporating new ideas, practices and ways of dealing with old problems. You'll likely get homework to try and with your commitment, changes can happen pretty quickly.
The benefit of a small, bespoke practice is the premium service offered and support between sessions. Quick fixes, 'hacks' and endless talking are simply not going to cut it in these contexts, so you can be assured of the quality and laser-focused attention you are getting.
Face-to-face sessions in Manhattan are by appointment only Thursday evenings, Friday day and some Saturdays. All other sessions are online.
HOW MANY SESSIONS DO I NEED?
People start seeing a change after the first session – generally 10-20 sessions is common. Our work together is short-to-medium term. We will co-create a therapeutic connection and really invest in getting you the change you seek. After you feel you've gotten to where you want to be in your own time, you’re welcome to stay as long as you like after that. In between sessions, you will have access to me via email and text, so you will feel fully supported all the way. Many people enjoy the ongoing relationship. It's important we are a good fit and I am as particular about you, as you are about me. Our initial clarity call allows us to explore this and your intentions more fully.
- 30-minute initial video interview to help us get clear on our work together, no coaching, therapy or advice offered (free)
- 45-minute session for individuals
- 90-minute session for individuals / couples
- Packages of 5 x 90 min sessions 3 month expiration
- Couples Intensives by request
- Lite & Easy Coaching program
HOW DO I TALK TO YOU ABOUT MY STUFF?
I work best with individuals and couples who are really comitted to a change-oriented practice and are ready to level-up. My unique skill is in cutting through the BS to get you clarity and moving in the right direction. I help you integrate the information you need and show you how to discover what's meaningful for you. I meet you with both passion and compassion. I offer you education and support all the way. You may have been in therapy before or are ready to really take a deep dive into making some changes that previous therapists just didn't offer you. You're seeking guidance, strategy, sensitivity, accountability and are committed to really working on what's getting in your way. Contact me to begin the process
WHAT ARE YOUR QUALIFICATIONS?
I am an internationally recognized sexuality and relationship expert and clinical sexologist with a proven record as a go-to expert in modern sexuality in the USA, UK and Australia. I'm published in both clinical journals and popular media. Check the About page HERE. Not all relationship specialists are trained in sexuality and pleasure, and not all sexologists are competent at relationship dynamics. I offer the whole package. You won't be passed-off to a junior or graduate level assistant.
What about LGBTQ & sexual minorities?
All genders, orientations and relationship styles are safe and welcome with me including kinksters, SWs, adult industry professionals and alt sex aficionados. I have ample experience working with gender-diverse communities, SW communities and those whose sexuality sits outside the margins.
what about trauma?
Explicit trauma, like unresolved ongoing violence and physical / sexual abuse require specialist trauma care. If you are in immediate crisis / danger, we are not a good fit yet. When you are ready to integrate sex and pleasure back into your life after a time of healing, my trauma-informed work is perfect for you.
me and my boo want to learn 'all the things.'
Couples Intensives are available for a half day, full day or a full weekend. I am also available to travel. Contact me to begin the process.
i feel nervous about starting, or i don't know where to start.
I got you! That’s my job! Our work together is confidential. All you need to do is contact me.
WHAT ARE YOUR FEES?
My fees reflect my years of experience and specialized training in clinical and somatic sexology. I accept full fee at or before (online) the time of service via cash, check, Venmo, credit card or Paypal in US dollars. Pricing options are available during the introductory consultation. Some sliding scale places may available along with pay-it-forward options for people who want to help those who can't afford specialist sessions.
Some sliding scale places may be available for online sessions only during business hours Eastern time. Complete the fee request section on the contact form Priority is given to individuals and couples from marginalized communities who are unable to pay for specialist help.
DO YOU TAKE INSURANCE?
I do NOT accept insurance. No out-of-network coverage is possible either. I know, it sucks, but clinical sexology and relationship coaching isn't covered. Receipts are supplied for consulting – no mention of ‘sex’ or diagnosis for your privacy and discretion. Let's discuss further options for the best outcomes for you.