Many relationships counsellors will talk about ‘relationship values’. Relationship values are what motivates us to find fulfillment in a relationship. For example, security is often a strong value people hold about intimate relationships. Without this, the relationship feels unfulfilling because … Continued

Erotic fantasies are as common as daydreaming. Imagining ourselves in a hot tryst with a (several) flight attendant(s), being desired by strangers at a sex party, doing unspeakable things with a celebrity crush, being punished by a cruel owner or … Continued

Out of the closet and into our lives, anal is indeed the new black. My good friend and sex educator colleague Tristan Taormino says that ‘anal is the great equaliser – because everybody has one’. But the egalitarian nature … Continued

Erections (or the absence of) are a delicate issue for those with penises, especially those who identify as men. (Yup, not all people with penises identify as men – but that is for another post). In fact, penis and erection … Continued

I get some very funny reactions when I am at dinner parties and people find out what my job is. So many  wonder what it is I actually do in my sessions with private clients. Followed up quickly by; “What kind of … Continued

Ahhh – spontaneous sex. Even the phrase alone conjures images of youth, tropical holidays, cocktails by the beach and random acts of lust in the back of cars. The longing many of us have for spontaneous sex is not so … Continued

With the volume of sexually explicit material available to us online these days not to mention easy access to it all, it would be very simple to think that we as a species have become very comfortable with talking about sex. You … Continued

If you could take a pill to eat Brussels Sprouts when you don’t like them, would you take it? If you could take a pill to make yourself watch sports when you actually preferred painting, would you do it? If … Continued