Tag: shame

Less Sex, Bad Sex & Sex Tech

Less Sex, Bad Sex & Sex Tech Recent stats show that young people are having less sex than any generation before them. Despite the so called ‘sex recession’ there is no evidence to suggest that other adult generations are also hit by this decline in carnal activities. In fact to the contrary, those over 55 […]

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Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?   In fragile times, it’s often our most intimate and close relationships that suffer. Intimacy is the glue, the enhancer that gives us the drive to connect, and in many situations, also the factor that can be a passion killer for some and the straw that breaks the camel’s back. I […]

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Sexual Fantasies… What Do They Mean?

Sexual Fantasies… What Do They Mean? Erotic fantasies are as common as daydreaming. Imagining ourselves in a hot tryst with a (several) flight attendant(s), being desired by strangers at a sex party, doing unspeakable things with a celebrity crush, being punished by a cruel owner or getting paid for sexual acts we’d never do in […]

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What watching children can teach us about pleasure

What watching children can teach us about pleasureObserve children playing outdoors. Whether together or alone, they are totally engaged and at one with the moment they are experiencing.  They let their emotions flow through them without filter. Passion, laughter and frustration move like water through a crack and change within the blink of an eye, […]

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The (short) History of the Penis

The penis has been enormously influential in shaping our beliefs and the cultural history of the world. Revered and feared in societies across the world, its name ‘penis’ comes from the Latin, meaning ‘tail’ and is the ultimate symbol of masculinity worldwide. Temples in India were once erected (no pun intended) in their honor, modern skyscrapers resemble their glory, […]

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Where did my sex drive go?

Hi Cyndi, I am 23 years old and I’m facing a difficult moment sexually because I have lost my libido. I have no interest in sex and the worst is that I don’t enjoy it anymore. What are some ways I can get my libido back? (Ps: I’ve been on the pill for a couple […]

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Getting real about consent

GETTING REAL ABOUT CONSENT Consent is a buzz word these days. In sexuality education and sex positive circles it’s thrown around with gay abandon, while its definition and its processes are in continuous formation. We are still debating and describing in detail what it means and how it’s established. Many of us have recognised it’s […]

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VD in Wartime Australia

VD in Wartime Australia Last night I was lucky enough to be a guest at Dr Ian Denham’s enlightening account of the sexual plight of the ANZACS during WW1. He regaled us with the fascinating story of the spread of what was then called ‘VD’ (venereal disease) among Australian soldiers during WW1. Within 6 weeks […]

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How can I get more out of my sex life?

How can I get more out of my sex life?I teach people how to have sex – for a living! It’s the best job in the world.After all these years of erotic detective work, I have discovered what works.Common issues clients seek me out for include:orgasm problemslibido issueserection problems andmis-matched sex drives.People struggle talking about […]

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Women & That ‘Orgasm’ Problem

Women & That ‘Orgasm’ ProblemOne of the most frequently asked questions I get from women in my practice is about their ability to orgasm.Orgasm is the main outcome or goal many of us focus on when discussing sex. In terms of both language and culture it’s the  default used determine whether or not sex has been […]

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