...when love is just not enough
Your sex therapy and relationship coaching sessions with me are grounded in the fundamental belief that pleasure, sex and relationships are an essential part of a healthy life. Your consultations are highly personalized for your unique situation. As a highly trained and sought-after sex therapist and relationship counselor, all of my knowledge, wisdom and experience is at your disposal, including therapeutic discussions and techniques, proven strategies for increasing and exploring pleasure, tons of scientifically-backed sex information and education, plus skills development to support you in relationships, communication, emotional and mental processing.
The essence of our work together is the rich, embodied integration of body, mind, and heart. We’ll look at what’s getting in your way, we’ll bust a few myths, and help you take action and create a program for your lifestyle, personality, time frame, ability, resources, and health.
You'll love the gentle, compassionate yet powerful approaches I use. Enough therapeutic connection to feel safe & held, enough scientifically-backed education and guidance to stop you floundering and just the right amount of coaching, encouragement and permission to get you up & out of your funk.
Whatever your relationships status, age, orientation or desire – working with me is a rich and fulfilling experience designed to align what you want, where you want to be, and how to get you there in the most effective amount of time.
REASONS YOU MIGHT WANT TO WORK WITH ME:
- Erection problems / erectile dysfunction
- Orgasm problems (too much/too many/ not enough/not at all)
- Desire & libido difficulties
- Arousal difficulties
- Reconnecting to pleasure after abuse
- Ejaculation problems
- Navigating online dating
- Discovering sex & dating after divorce
- Exploring sexuality, pleasure & aging
- Lack of knowledge/confidence/skill
- Explore deeper and more connected sexuality
- Learn about Tantra/spiritual sexuality
- Struggling with sexual confidence/body image
- Concerns about porn consumption/seeing sex workers/ attending sex parties/hook-up sex
- Unpacking infidelity
- Alternative approaches to sex practices
- Exploring sexuality/orientation /gender identity
- Coming out/changing identity
- Painful sex
- Adult sex ed for the 21st century
- Exploring troublesome turn-ons & turn-offs, fantasies & mental/emotional health
- Understanding/support for problematic/erratic sexual behavior (sometimes called sex addiction)
Couples / Relationships
- Reinvigorating a long-term relationship
- Working through relationship difficulties
- Dealing with boredom in relationships
- Managing your sex life
- Making time for fulfilling sex
- Improving communication
- Dealing with differences in libido
- Dealing with changes in aging
- Processing difficult emotions including betrayal, hurt, jealousy & anger
- Dealing with changes in a relationship
- Exploring function/dysfunction and satisfaction
- Exploring open relationships and non-monogamy
- Exploring kink and alternative sex practices
- Starting and ending relationships
- Learning about your lovers’ body
There are three ways to work with me:
DEEP DIVE SESSIONS
I offer traditional style in-person or online sex therapy & relationship coaching and consulting to individuals, couples or polycules
- in Manhattan
- & via encrypted Zoom video online.
Check out this handy tool to see the time difference between your location and New York City.
You (and your partner/s) can join me for inspiring, change-oriented and useful sex and relationship consultations weekly or biweekly.
We start with a 5 sessions to establish our rich relationship, help you dive deep and get you on track.
Full day/weekend intensives available upon request.
Contact me to set up a FREE introduction & inquire about fees and sliding scale options
First and foremost we identify your hopes and your problem/s then we work toward solutions. It’s amazing how many people try to change their sex/lives/relationships without first establishing the incentives or problems. I offer specialized perspectives on topics most clinicians are not trained in or shy away from. Unlike a lot of more traditional approaches, I help you reduce the mind / body split and get connected to your body, your senses and the birthright that is your erotic self. You were born this way and our work is designed to take you back home. I use various talk techniques as well as somatic (body-based) and emotional experiencing techniques as the tools for change. There is no explicit touch involved.
Sessions are focused on the here and now to help you develop skills and confidence where you need them most. Sometimes we look at history where knowledge from the past is holding you back in the present, but mostly we look at where you are today and where you want to be. I draw on a profound range of ideas, up-to-date clinical research and useful, transformative physical, mental and emotional practices to help you create a meaningful understanding of sex, pleasure and relationships in your life. If typical talk therapy leaves you feeling like you're going in circles with no action, you'll love working with me. We chat, we laugh, we talk about big stuff and practice incorporating new ideas, practices and ways of dealing with old problems. You'll likely get homework to try and with your commitment, changes can happen pretty quickly.
The benefit of a small, bespoke practice is the premium service offered and support between sessions. Quick fixes, 'hacks' and endless talking are simply not going to cut it in these contexts, so you can be assured of the quality and laser-focused attention you are getting.
Face-to-face sessions are by appointment only in lower Manhattan or Union Square - depending upon availability.
Do I want Deep Dive or Lite & Easy?
Deep Dive is for people
- who may be new to sexuality and relationship work
- or have tried regular therapy but seek more
- who are serious about change
- who are curious, comitted and ready to explore
- who want more from life, sex and relationships
- who have the time, dedication and resources to dive deep
Lite & Easy is for everyone else.
How many sessions do I need?
People start seeing a change after the first session – generally 10-20 sessions is common. Our work together is short-to-medium term. We will co-create a therapeutic connection and really invest in getting you the change you seek. After you feel you've gotten to where you want to be in your own time, you’re welcome to stay as long as you like after that. In between sessions, you will have access to me via email and text, so you will feel fully supported all the way. Many people enjoy the ongoing relationship. It's important we are a good fit and I am as particular about you, as you are about me. Our initial clarity call allows us to explore this and your intentions more fully.
- 30-minute initial video clarity call to help us get clear on our work together (free).
- Packages of 5 x 90 min sessions for individuals and couples - 3 month expiration
- Couples / Individuals intensives case-by-case
lite & easy
Busy people need flexible options!
Coaching-On-Demand offers you a lite & easy way to work with me when scheduling regular sessions is too complicated.
Lite & Easy Coaching-On-Demand gives you the support you need, when you need it with minimum interruption to your life.
- You choose from 3 tiered monthly options.
- Silver - 1 hour video call + unlimited voice support
- Gold - 2 hours video call + unlimited voice support
- Platinum - 4 hours video call + unlimited voice support.
- No minimum committment
- Your video calls are scheduled according to your tier.
- Shift between tiers as required before the start of the next billing month.
- Invoiced via Square on the 1st of each month.
- Cancel anytime.
How it works
- We begin together with a 1 hour scheduled Zoom call where I discover where you’re at, where it hurts or feels stuck, and where you want to go next.
- We start to create a vision for the sex, life and relationships you want to have.
- We keep in touch in real time on Voxer, a voice messaging app. As you go about your week, you ask your questions, share your insights and get on with your life, knowing I am right there with you.
- Leave messages any time of the day / night. Any time zone.
- Monday-Friday 8am to 5pm EST, I reply to questions or offer encouragement and we work through your experience and insights together until our next video call.
- You get your time back
- You gain momentum
- Your confidence grows
- You get wisdom and guidance right when you need it. No waiting around for our next video call.
- Just like having a personal sex coach in your pocket.
Prefer scheduled sessions?
Check out the Deep Dive option above for a more traditional approach.
EMAIL SEX COACHING
How it works
Use the purchase link here to buy your email sex coach exchange. This fee is good for one full exchange. That means one email from you and one very thorough response from me including tips, ideas, links and suggested materials to get you on your way.
Once processed, you and I will receive an automated email confirming your purchase. It's super important your email address is correct - one wrong letter means I cannot reply to you. I will then send you a form where you can ask your question. This form is simple and designed to help you really get clear on what you are asking so you can get the most value from the exchange.
Within 4 business days of completing the form, you will receive my reply; specific, tailored and full of ideas and suggestions.
It's really that easy!
Payments are all billed in US dollars from Life and Soul Inc.