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How Do I Give My Wife An Orgasm?

  • by Cyndi
  • November 14, 2025November 30, 2025

How Do I Give My Wife An Orgasm? Hi Cyndi, I am married, age 37, and to date have not been able give my wife… Read More »How Do I Give My Wife An Orgasm?

5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight

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  • November 10, 2025November 30, 2025

5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight In my practice, I meet many people, especially women who struggle with their sexual pleasure. After all, we… Read More »5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight

How Can I Get More Out Of My Sex Life?

  • by Cyndi
  • October 28, 2025November 25, 2025

How Can I Get More From My Sex Life? I teach people how to have sex – for a living! It’s the best job in… Read More »How Can I Get More Out Of My Sex Life?

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Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

  • by Cyndi
  • February 6, 2025February 23, 2025

Why Can’t I Come During Sex?*This article is referring exclusively to ciswomen & men”Why can’t I orgasm during sex?” She asks me…perplexed and bewildered.If I… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

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Navigating Casual Sex – It ain’t what you do, it’s the way that you do it.

  • by Cyndi
  • March 16, 2021March 11, 2025

Navigating Casual SexIt ain’t what you do, it’s the way that you do it.Not everyone is able to be (or wants to be) in a… Read More »Navigating Casual Sex – It ain’t what you do, it’s the way that you do it.

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Sex and The Vagus Nerve

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  • December 23, 2020January 28, 2023

Sex & The Vagus Nerve Learn how working with body can reduce tension and help you have better sex. Many of us feel uncomfortable about sex.… Read More »Sex and The Vagus Nerve

Cyndi Darnell, one of New York City's most renowned sex therapists, sexologists, and couples counselors, continues to set new standards in the field of sexual wellness and relationship counseling. With a unique, holistic approach that bridges science, psychology, and compassionate coaching, Darnell has become a pivotal figure for individuals and couples seeking to transform their intimate lives. As an internationally recognized expert, Cyndi Darnell combines clinical expertise with an inclusive, nonjudgmental perspective, empowering clients to overcome challenges related to intimacy, communication, and sexual satisfaction. Her innovative methods focus not only on the physical aspects of sexuality but also on the emotional and psychological factors that contribute to fulfilling relationships.

Rekindling The Flame

  • by Cyndi
  • October 23, 2019November 25, 2025

Rekindling The Flame    …when life gets in the way Date nights are great. They can remind you of why you fell in love way… Read More »Rekindling The Flame

Cyndi Darnell, an internationally acclaimed sex and relationship therapist, educator, and speaker, is redefining the landscape of inclusive therapy in New York City. With a steadfast commitment to relationship diversity and LGBTQIA+ affirmation, Darnell has become one of the most sought-after therapists for individuals, couples, and polycules navigating complex relationship dynamics.

How to Touch Like You Mean It!

  • by Cyndi
  • April 26, 2019March 11, 2025

How to Touch Your Lover(Like You Mean It!)One of the most basic forms of human connection is touch. For so many of us it’s hard… Read More »How to Touch Like You Mean It!

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How to Make Sex Last Longer

  • by Cyndi
  • March 14, 2019January 28, 2023

How to Make Sex Last Longer One of the most common questions I am asked is how to make sex last longer. For many of… Read More »How to Make Sex Last Longer

The (short) History of the Penis

  • by Cyndi
  • August 14, 2018April 9, 2020

The (short) history of the PenisThe penis has been enormously influential in shaping our beliefs and the cultural history of the world. Revered and feared in societies across the… Read More »The (short) History of the Penis

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