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The Science of Responsive Desire

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  • December 1, 2025December 3, 2025

The Science of Responsive Desire Why Desire Isn’t Always Spontaneous—and Why That’s Completely Normal Many people grow up believing sexual desire works like a light… Read More »The Science of Responsive Desire

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The Psychology of Kinks and Fantasies

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  • November 29, 2025November 28, 2025

The Psychology of Kinks and Fantasies Understanding Desire With Curiosity, Not Judgment Kinks and sexual fantasies are often misunderstood, despite being a completely normal part… Read More »The Psychology of Kinks and Fantasies

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What Does a Sex Therapist Do?

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  • November 28, 2025December 2, 2025

What Does a Sex Therapist Do? I get some very funny reactions when I am at dinner parties and people find out what my job… Read More »What Does a Sex Therapist Do?

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How to Understand Your Sexual Fantasies

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  • November 25, 2025November 25, 2025

Sexual Fantasies: What Do They Mean? Sexual fantasies are as common as daydreaming. Imagining ourselves in a hot tryst with a (several) flight attendant(s), being… Read More »How to Understand Your Sexual Fantasies

How to Initiate Sex

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  • November 24, 2025November 28, 2025

How To Initiate Sex Initiating sex can be uncomfortable for many of us. You may be the type who initiates by grabbing a part of… Read More »How to Initiate Sex

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Elevate Your Relationships: 10 Expert Tips for Healthy Polyamory and Non-Monogamy

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  • November 24, 2025November 25, 2025

Elevate Your Polyamory Journey: 10 Expert Tips for Healthy Non-Monogamy One of the most significant social shifts in recent years is the growing interest in… Read More »Elevate Your Relationships: 10 Expert Tips for Healthy Polyamory and Non-Monogamy

5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight

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  • November 10, 2025November 30, 2025

5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight In my practice, I meet many people, especially women who struggle with their sexual pleasure. After all, we… Read More »5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight

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Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

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  • February 6, 2025February 23, 2025

Why Can’t I Come During Sex?*This article is referring exclusively to ciswomen & men”Why can’t I orgasm during sex?” She asks me…perplexed and bewildered.If I… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

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How to Rekindle The Spark in Your Relationship

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  • January 19, 2025February 21, 2025

Help! I’m losing attraction to my partner!For a lot people in relationships, one thing that comes up often is the fear of what losing attraction… Read More »How to Rekindle The Spark in Your Relationship

Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

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  • August 11, 2021December 5, 2025

Vulnerability, The Last Taboo? In fragile times, it’s often our most intimate and close relationships that suffer. Intimacy is the glue, the enhancer that gives… Read More »Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

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