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Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

  • by Cyndi
  • February 5, 2026February 5, 2026

Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation It’s easy to think that grief and pleasure are mutually exclusive. In hard times, many of us try to… Read More »Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

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Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

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  • February 3, 2026February 1, 2026

Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance (Community and Connection Focus) When the world feels like it’s falling apart, joy can feel frivolous—or even ethically complicated.… Read More »Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

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Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026February 1, 2026

Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink,  orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

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How Patriachy Conquered Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 18, 2025January 3, 2026

How Patriachy Conquered Desire, And How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriachy Conquered Desire

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Ghosting and Breadcrumbing in Modern Dating

  • by Cyndi
  • December 15, 2025December 4, 2025

The Silent Treatment: Understanding Ghosting and Breadcrumbing in Modern Dating In the age of dating apps and instant messaging, finding connection has never been easier—or… Read More »Ghosting and Breadcrumbing in Modern Dating

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How To Express Yourself Without Conflict

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  • December 14, 2025December 4, 2025

How to Express Your Needs in a Relationship Without Conflict Expressing your needs clearly and respectfully is one of the most important skills in any… Read More »How To Express Yourself Without Conflict

Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

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  • August 11, 2021December 5, 2025

Vulnerability, The Last Taboo? In fragile times, it’s often our most intimate and close relationships that suffer. Intimacy is the glue, the enhancer that gives… Read More »Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

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