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What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 23, 2025December 23, 2025

Addyi vs. Vyleesi: Pros, Cons, and What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire Low sexual desire is one of the most common reasons… Read More »What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

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How Patriachy Conquered Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 18, 2025January 3, 2026

How Patriachy Conquered Desire, And How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriachy Conquered Desire

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Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 17, 2025December 12, 2025

Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire Here’s what nobody tells you: your desire was never meant to be yours. From the moment we’re conscious enough to understand… Read More »Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire

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Polyamory Myth-Busting

  • by Cyndi
  • December 2, 2025December 15, 2025

Polyamory Myth-Busting: Separating Facts From Fear Polyamory has become more visible in recent years, yet the misconceptions surrounding it are still abundant. Much of what… Read More »Polyamory Myth-Busting

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Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

  • by Cyndi
  • February 6, 2025February 23, 2025

Why Can’t I Come During Sex?*This article is referring exclusively to ciswomen & men”Why can’t I orgasm during sex?” She asks me…perplexed and bewildered.If I… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

Is everything we believe about monogamy wrong?

  • by Cyndi
  • April 24, 2019September 13, 2020

Is everything we believe about monogamy wrong? Last night I attended Open Love NY’s panel / discussion event with Wednesday Martin (author of Untrue and… Read More »Is everything we believe about monogamy wrong?

The (short) History of the Penis

  • by Cyndi
  • August 14, 2018April 9, 2020

The (short) history of the PenisThe penis has been enormously influential in shaping our beliefs and the cultural history of the world. Revered and feared in societies across the… Read More »The (short) History of the Penis

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Women & That 'Orgasm' Problem

  • by Cyndi
  • November 24, 2016March 11, 2025

Women & That ‘Orgasm’ ProblemOne of the most frequently asked questions I get from women in my practice is about their ability to orgasm.Orgasm is… Read More »Women & That 'Orgasm' Problem

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