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Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

  • by Cyndi
  • August 11, 2021December 5, 2025

Vulnerability, The Last Taboo? In fragile times, it’s often our most intimate and close relationships that suffer. Intimacy is the glue, the enhancer that gives… Read More »Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

Sex & The Single Person

  • by Cyndi
  • July 19, 2021January 28, 2023

Sex, Relationships & The Single PersonAre you tired of reading about sex and relationships advice that always centers partnered people and those in relationships? Me… Read More »Sex & The Single Person

The Desire Myth

  • by Cyndi
  • February 9, 2021February 1, 2023

The Desire MythIf you could take a pill to make food you don’t like, enjoyable, would you take it?If you could take a pill to… Read More »The Desire Myth

Cyndi Darnell, one of New York City's most renowned sex therapists, sexologists, and couples counselors, continues to set new standards in the field of sexual wellness and relationship counseling. With a unique, holistic approach that bridges science, psychology, and compassionate coaching, Darnell has become a pivotal figure for individuals and couples seeking to transform their intimate lives. As an internationally recognized expert, Cyndi Darnell combines clinical expertise with an inclusive, nonjudgmental perspective, empowering clients to overcome challenges related to intimacy, communication, and sexual satisfaction. Her innovative methods focus not only on the physical aspects of sexuality but also on the emotional and psychological factors that contribute to fulfilling relationships.

Rekindling The Flame

  • by Cyndi
  • October 23, 2019November 25, 2025

Rekindling The Flame    …when life gets in the way Date nights are great. They can remind you of why you fell in love way… Read More »Rekindling The Flame

Cyndi Darnell, an internationally acclaimed sex and relationship therapist, educator, and speaker, is redefining the landscape of inclusive therapy in New York City. With a steadfast commitment to relationship diversity and LGBTQIA+ affirmation, Darnell has become one of the most sought-after therapists for individuals, couples, and polycules navigating complex relationship dynamics.

How to Touch Like You Mean It!

  • by Cyndi
  • April 26, 2019March 11, 2025

How to Touch Your Lover(Like You Mean It!)One of the most basic forms of human connection is touch. For so many of us it’s hard… Read More »How to Touch Like You Mean It!

Getting Triggered in Relationships

  • by Cyndi
  • April 18, 2019January 28, 2023

Getting Triggered in Relationships   The word ‘triggered’ occurs frequently on social media.  Originally the word was used in clinical contexts to describe responses arising… Read More »Getting Triggered in Relationships

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How We Unlearn Pleasure

  • by Cyndi
  • October 10, 2018January 28, 2023

How We Unlearn PleasureObserve children playing outdoors. Whether together or alone, they are totally engaged and at-one with the moment they are experiencing. They let their… Read More »How We Unlearn Pleasure

The (short) History of the Penis

  • by Cyndi
  • August 14, 2018April 9, 2020

The (short) history of the PenisThe penis has been enormously influential in shaping our beliefs and the cultural history of the world. Revered and feared in societies across the… Read More »The (short) History of the Penis

Understanding Your Erotic Values

  • by Cyndi
  • October 25, 2017January 28, 2023

UNDERSTANDING YOUR EROTIC VALUESMany relationships counselors will talk about ‘relationship values’. Relationship values are what motivates us to find fulfillment in a relationship. For example,… Read More »Understanding Your Erotic Values

When Love Hurts…

  • by Cyndi
  • February 8, 2017March 10, 2020

When Love Hurts…My post just before the holidays late last year was a reflection on the struggles of having unresolved feelings during ‘happy’ times. When… Read More »When Love Hurts…

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