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How Patriachy Conquered Desire

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How Patriachy Conquered Desire, And How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriachy Conquered Desire

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Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire

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  • December 17, 2025December 12, 2025

Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire Here’s what nobody tells you: your desire was never meant to be yours. From the moment we’re conscious enough to understand… Read More »Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire

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Beyond the Bedroom: How Polyamory Connects to Broader Social Contexts

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Beyond the Bedroom: How Polyamory Connects to Broader Social Justice When people think about polyamory, they usually focus on the interpersonal—the jealousy, the scheduling conflicts,… Read More »Beyond the Bedroom: How Polyamory Connects to Broader Social Contexts

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How Do I Give My Wife An Orgasm?

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  • November 14, 2025February 19, 2026

How Do I Give My Wife An Orgasm? Hi Cyndi, I am married, age 37, and to date have not been able give my wife… Read More »How Do I Give My Wife An Orgasm?

5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight

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5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight In my practice, I meet many people, especially women who struggle with their sexual pleasure. After all, we… Read More »5 Ways to Increase Your Pleasure Tonight

How Can I Get More Out Of My Sex Life?

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  • October 28, 2025November 25, 2025

How Can I Get More From My Sex Life? I teach people how to have sex – for a living! It’s the best job in… Read More »How Can I Get More Out Of My Sex Life?

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Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

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Why Can’t I Come During Sex?*This article is referring exclusively to ciswomen & men”Why can’t I orgasm during sex?” She asks me…perplexed and bewildered.If I… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex?

Rough Sex Anyone?

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Rough Sex Anyone?My current lover and I have been having quite rough sex. Hair pulling,  choking and slapping, etc. I am really enjoying it in… Read More »Rough Sex Anyone?

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Sex and The Vagus Nerve

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Sex & The Vagus Nerve Learn how working with body can reduce tension and help you have better sex. Many of us feel uncomfortable about sex.… Read More »Sex and The Vagus Nerve

Less Sex, Bad Sex & Sex Tech

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