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Erectile Dysfunction and Male Performance Anxiety: When Sex Starts to Feel Like a Test

  • by Cyndi
  • September 20, 2026September 20, 2026

Erectile dysfunction can be about much more than getting or keeping an erection. For some men, erectile dysfunction begins with a physical change. For others,… Read More »Erectile Dysfunction and Male Performance Anxiety: When Sex Starts to Feel Like a Test

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Sexual Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction and Treatment

  • by Cyndi
  • September 19, 2026September 19, 2026

Male Performance Anxiety in NYC: Sexual Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction and Treatment Male performance anxiety can make sex feel like a test. You may want… Read More »Sexual Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction and Treatment

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Why You Can Like Sex and Still Not Want It

  • by Cyndi
  • August 13, 2026August 13, 2026

Wanting Sex and Liking Sex Are Two Different Things You can like sex and not feel like having it at the same time. That contradiction… Read More »Why You Can Like Sex and Still Not Want It

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Why Can’t I Come During Sex? The Orgasm Gap and Women

  • by Cyndi
  • July 25, 2026August 7, 2026

The Orgasm Gap. Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms I  have orgasms alone, but not during sex with my partner… what’s wrong with me? It’s one… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex? The Orgasm Gap and Women

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Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)

  • by Cyndi
  • July 23, 2026August 7, 2026

(Your orgasm isn’t a mystery — it’s a pattern.) Many people assume that if they can orgasm alone but not with a partner, something must… Read More »Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)

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How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want

  • by Cyndi
  • June 14, 2026September 20, 2026

Why So Many Women Don’t Know What They Want in Bed: and The Question That Actually Helps You know what car you want. You know… Read More »How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want

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Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • February 21, 2026July 28, 2026

The Unspoken Work: Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that doesn’t show up in any… Read More »Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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I Don’t Like Sex. What’s Wrong With Me?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 6, 2026January 6, 2026

I don’t like sex. What’s wrong with me? Hi Cyndi, I don’t like sex. I would like to want to have to have sex but… Read More »I Don’t Like Sex. What’s Wrong With Me?

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How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 18, 2025July 23, 2026

How Patriachy Conquered Desire, and How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

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