Many people have concerns about their sex lives. After all, sex is an area of human relationships that is difficult to address between lovers and is often skimmed over in couple’s counselling. But if it’s so popular, why is … Continued

Hi Cyndi, I am 23 years old and I’m facing a difficult moment sexually because I have lost my libido. I have no interest in sex and the worst is that I don’t enjoy it anymore. What are some ways … Continued

Out of the closet and into our lives, anal is indeed the new black. My good friend and sex educator colleague Tristan Taormino says that ‘anal is the great equaliser – because everybody has one’. But the egalitarian nature … Continued

Dear Cyndi, I am married, age 47, to date have not been able give my wife a single orgasm. Is there a single act where this can be achieved? Carl Dear Carl Thanks for your question. I often hear stories … Continued

Ahhh – spontaneous sex. Even the phrase alone conjures images of youth, tropical holidays, cocktails by the beach and random acts of lust in the back of cars. The longing many of us have for spontaneous sex is not so … Continued

Masturbation is a really important part of our sexuality. Practicing masturbation can actually expand and enhance our erotic experiences with others. Who woulda thunk it? Any of you that are familiar with my work know that I am a great … Continued

With the volume of sexually explicit material available to us online these days not to mention easy access to it all, it would be very simple to think that we as a species have become very comfortable with talking about sex. You … Continued

Hi, I don’t like sex. I would like to want to have to have sex but as soon as I start I can’t think about anything else but stopping. I am not in a relationship but have dated a few … Continued

If you could take a pill to want more of something you don’t want, would you take it? If you could take a pill to make yourself watch sports when you were actually just into painting, would you do it? … Continued

Last week this email arrived in my inbox… Hi Cyndi I am in a great relationship with my partner, we have been together for a few years and things for us are pretty good – but we really just struggle in … Continued

In my practice as a qualified sex therapist & coach, I meet many women who struggle with their sexual pleasure. After all, we live in a culture that really doesn’t value and prioritise pleasure in any way, so sometimes it’s … Continued

One of the most basic forms of human connection is touch. For so many of us it’s hard to imagine life without it. From erotic passion to profound love, there is no deeper expression of affection, emotion and eroticism. Sadly, … Continued

When sex makes headlines, it’s usually for all the ‘wrong’ reasons. Do a Google News search (see images below) for sex and you will see endless examples of sex gone bad; shame making articles, heinous violations, articles espousing bigger-better-faster-stronger, or … Continued

One of the most powerful lessons I have received in my life and that I draw on heavily in counselling and education with clients is working with the notion of uncertainty. Uncertainty is harrowing in so many ways. It brings … Continued

In the West we confuse Beauty with Value, Worthiness and Relevance. Yet unlike these ‘things’, Beauty is fickle, subjective and impermanent. But Passion ( Beauty’s lesser valued counterpart and source of inspiration) is cultivated and refined over a lifetime. Passion … Continued

Hi folks I am seeking your stories for my book. How do YOU manage to work towards maintaining a sex positive life in a sex negative culture? What kinds of things do you do to help you on the days … Continued

I’ve been seeing a really hot guy for a few months now and we’ve totally dived straight into a relationship. I know that we both want it to be a long term thing and I really feel that it will … Continued

In fragile times, it’s often our most intimate and close relationships that suffer. Intimacy is the glue, the enhancer that gives us the drive to connect, and in many situations, also the factor that can be a passion killer … Continued

Here is a piece I wrote during my Master’s degree at Uni of Sydney on  why comprehensive and age-appropriate sex education is essential. I was absolutely floored to find out that Sex Ed is not compulsory in all Australian schools, and … Continued

  There has been an astounding response to the podcast on female anatomy and arousal that I recorded with Catherine Deveny. The response, particularly from men, has been one of praise  for not only having the discussion publicly, but also … Continued

Hello again,   In news just in, our PODCAST had over 1800 hits overnight! What a fabulous effort pleasure enthusiasts!

Wow. What an exhilarating day! Talk about PLEASURE overload. Pleasure of course can  be sourced from a squillion locations both internally and externally, and today mine came in the form of the GLORIOUS Catherine Deveny AND everyone of you who … Continued