How to Have Spontaneous Sex
Spontaneous Sex: The Fantasy of Desire Without Effort Ahhh, spontaneous sex. The phrase alone conjures images of youth, tropical holidays, cocktails on the beach, stolen… Read More »How to Have Spontaneous Sex
Spontaneous Sex: The Fantasy of Desire Without Effort Ahhh, spontaneous sex. The phrase alone conjures images of youth, tropical holidays, cocktails on the beach, stolen… Read More »How to Have Spontaneous Sex
Mismatched Desire In Long Term Relationships is Normal (and very frustrating) “Mismatched libido” is one of the most common reasons couples feel stuck, ashamed, or… Read More »Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us
When Chaos Feels Like Love Have you ever had a relationship that felt more intense than anything you’d experienced before—and yet, looking back, you know… Read More »Why Chaos Feels Like Love
Wanting Sex and Liking Sex Are Two Different Things You can like sex and not feel like having it at the same time. That contradiction… Read More »Why You Can Like Sex and Still Not Want It
Emotional Capacity vs. Willingness vs. Emotional Availability vs. Emotional Labor You can be fully willing to work on your relationship and still lack the capacity… Read More »When They Can’t Open Up: Emotional Capacity vs. Emotional Availability
The Orgasm Gap. Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms I have orgasms alone, but not during sex with my partner… what’s wrong with me? It’s one… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex? The Orgasm Gap and Women
(Your orgasm isn’t a mystery — it’s a pattern.) Many people assume that if they can orgasm alone but not with a partner, something must… Read More »Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)
Fawning In Bed: Sex as a Peacekeeping Device Saying yes to sex, when you’re not especially into it, can be a type of fawning response… Read More »Fawning Responses During Sex – Attachment and Autonomy
Why So Many Women Don’t Know What They Want in Bed: and The Question That Actually Helps You know what car you want. You know… Read More »How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want
The Unspoken Work: Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that doesn’t show up in any… Read More »Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire