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The Orgasm Gap – Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms

  • by Cyndi
  • July 25, 2026

Why Can’t You Come During Sex? “Why can’t I come during sex?” It’s one of the most common questions I hear in my practice from… Read More »The Orgasm Gap – Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms

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Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)

  • by Cyndi
  • July 23, 2026July 25, 2026

Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And why this isn’t a mystery — it’s a pattern.) Many people assume that if… Read More »Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)

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Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed

  • by Cyndi
  • July 6, 2026July 6, 2026

When Sex Keeps the Peace: Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed Saying yes to sex when you’re not especially into is… Read More »Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed

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Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • February 21, 2026February 24, 2026

The Unspoken Work: Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that doesn’t show up in any… Read More »Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire

Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

  • by Cyndi
  • February 5, 2026February 5, 2026

Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation It’s easy to think that grief and pleasure are mutually exclusive. In hard times, many of us try to… Read More »Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

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Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

  • by Cyndi
  • February 3, 2026July 23, 2026

Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance (Community and Connection Focus) When the world feels like it’s falling apart, joy can feel frivolous—or even ethically complicated.… Read More »Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

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Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026February 1, 2026

Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink,  orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

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Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026July 23, 2026

Mismatched Libido: What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us “Mismatched libido” is one of the most common reasons couples feel stuck, ashamed,… Read More »Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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