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Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026July 23, 2026

Mismatched Libido: What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us “Mismatched libido” is one of the most common reasons couples feel stuck, ashamed,… Read More »Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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When Desire Fades

  • by Cyndi
  • January 6, 2026July 23, 2026

When Desire Fades: A Common Story of Sexual Disconnection Let me tell you about someone I’ll call Sarah, though her story could be anyone’s story.… Read More »When Desire Fades

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What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

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  • December 23, 2025December 23, 2025

Addyi vs. Vyleesi: Pros, Cons, and What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire Low sexual desire is one of the most common reasons… Read More »What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

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How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

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  • December 18, 2025July 23, 2026

How Patriachy Conquered Desire, and How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

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Healing Sexual Shame

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  • November 30, 2025November 30, 2025

Healing Sexual Shame Understanding and Reclaiming Your Sexual Self Sexual shame is one of the most common yet least discussed experiences in human sexuality. Many… Read More »Healing Sexual Shame

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What Does a Sex Therapist Do?

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  • November 28, 2025December 2, 2025

What Does a Sex Therapist Do? I get some very funny reactions when I am at dinner parties and people find out what my job… Read More »What Does a Sex Therapist Do?

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What You Didn’t Know About Erections

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  • November 26, 2025November 28, 2025

 What You Didn’t Know About Erections The real science, the real psychology, and why erection changes don’t mean anything is “wrong with you.” When people… Read More »What You Didn’t Know About Erections

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Sexy Check-In Questions for Couples

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  • November 25, 2025November 28, 2025

🔥 Sexy Check-In Questions for Couples Warm the connection. Turn up the heat. Invite desire. ✨ Emotional Intimacy (the foreplay most people forget) What’s one… Read More »Sexy Check-In Questions for Couples

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