When Sex Keeps the Peace: Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed Saying yes to sex when you’re not especially into is… Read More »Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed
Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong
Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing (And What That’s Actually Telling You) The deliciousness of longing is what romance novels are made… Read More »Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing
What Actually Keeps a Relationship Running Relationship advice is everywhere, and most of it is either painfully obvious or built on the quiet assumption that… Read More »8 Ways To Make Your Relationships Better Than Ever
The Unspoken Work: Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that doesn’t show up in any… Read More »Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire
Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And why this isn’t a mystery — it’s a pattern.) If you can climax easily… Read More »Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)
Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation It’s easy to think that grief and pleasure are mutually exclusive. In hard times, many of us try to… Read More »Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation
Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance (Community and Connection Focus) When the world feels like it’s falling apart, joy can feel frivolous—or even ethically complicated.… Read More »Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance
Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink, orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart
Mismatched Libido: What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us “Mismatched libido” is one of the most common reasons couples feel stuck, ashamed,… Read More »Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us