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Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026July 23, 2026

Mismatched Libido: What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us “Mismatched libido” is one of the most common reasons couples feel stuck, ashamed,… Read More »Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating

  • by Cyndi
  • January 23, 2026January 24, 2026

The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating Dating has never been simple, but today’s landscape presents unique challenges that often… Read More »The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating

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Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss

  • by Cyndi
  • January 10, 2026January 13, 2026

Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss When we talk about grief, we often focus on tears, anger, and the hollow ache of absence. What… Read More »Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss

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Starting Over. Dating After Divorce in NYC

  • by Cyndi
  • January 9, 2026January 9, 2026

Starting Over: Dating After Divorce in NYC So you’re divorced and thinking about dating again in New York City (or any other place for that… Read More »Starting Over. Dating After Divorce in NYC

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When Desire Fades

  • by Cyndi
  • January 6, 2026July 23, 2026

When Desire Fades: A Common Story of Sexual Disconnection Let me tell you about someone I’ll call Sarah, though her story could be anyone’s story.… Read More »When Desire Fades

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What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 23, 2025December 23, 2025

Addyi vs. Vyleesi: Pros, Cons, and What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire Low sexual desire is one of the most common reasons… Read More »What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

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How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 18, 2025July 23, 2026

How Patriachy Conquered Desire, and How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

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Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 17, 2025December 12, 2025

Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire Here’s what nobody tells you: your desire was never meant to be yours. From the moment we’re conscious enough to understand… Read More »Unlearning Patriarchy and Desire

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Understanding Loneliness and Shame in Relationships

  • by Cyndi
  • December 10, 2025February 19, 2026

The Quiet Ache: Understanding Loneliness and Shame in Relationships One of the most disorienting experiences in life is feeling profoundly lonely while lying next to… Read More »Understanding Loneliness and Shame in Relationships

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