Why Chaos Feels Like Love
Have you ever had a relationship that felt more intense than anything you’d experienced before—and yet, looking back, you know it wasn’t good for you?… Read More »Why Chaos Feels Like Love
Have you ever had a relationship that felt more intense than anything you’d experienced before—and yet, looking back, you know it wasn’t good for you?… Read More »Why Chaos Feels Like Love
Wanting Sex and Liking Sex Are Two Different Things You can like sex and not feel like having it at the same time. That contradiction… Read More »Why You Can Like Sex and Still Not Want It
Emotional Capacity vs. Willingness vs. Emotional Availability vs. Emotional Labor You can be fully willing to work on your relationship and still lack the capacity… Read More »When They Can’t Open Up: Emotional Capacity vs. Emotional Availability
The Orgasm Gap. Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms I have orgasms alone, but not during sex with my partner… what’s wrong with me? It’s one… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex? The Orgasm Gap and Women
(Your orgasm isn’t a mystery — it’s a pattern.) Many people assume that if they can orgasm alone but not with a partner, something must… Read More »Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)
How To Process Your Emotions One of the most common pieces of advice in self-help culture is that you need to feel your feelings and… Read More »What Does It Mean To ‘Feel My Feelings’?
Fawning In Bed: Sex as a Peacekeeping Device Saying yes to sex, when you’re not especially into it, can be a type of fawning response… Read More »Fawning Responses During Sex – Attachment and Autonomy
When Emptiness After Sex Feels Lonely You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually be with someone… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty, Even When Nothing Went Wrong
Why So Many Women Don’t Know What They Want in Bed: and The Question That Actually Helps You know what car you want. You know… Read More »How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want
How To Build Intimacy Most of us have had the same exchange so many times it barely registers anymore. Someone asks how you are. You… Read More »The Question That Changes Everything