Fawning In Bed: Sex as a Peacekeeping Device Saying yes to sex, when you’re not especially into it, can be a type of fawning response… Read More »Fawning Responses During Sex – Attachment and Autonomy
When Emptiness After Sex Feels Lonely You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually be with someone… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty, Even When Nothing Went Wrong
Why So Many Women Don’t Know What They Want in Bed: and The Question That Actually Helps You know what car you want. You know… Read More »How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want
Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing (And What That’s Actually Telling You) The deliciousness of longing is what romance novels are made… Read More »Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing
Sex Won’t Fix Your Sexless Relationship. But It Might Show You What Will. There’s a particular kind of hope that comes with being in a… Read More »How To Fix Your Sexless Relationship
What If You’ve Never Seen A Relationship Built On Love? Most of us arrive at midlife carrying relationships like old luggage — overpacked, worn at… Read More »What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?
The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship Sarah sat in my office, watching Mike fumble through another question about his feelings.… Read More »The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship
The Unspoken Work: Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that doesn’t show up in any… Read More »Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire
Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation It’s easy to think that grief and pleasure are mutually exclusive. In hard times, many of us try to… Read More »Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation
Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink, orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart