Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong
Why So Many Women Don’t Know What They Want in Bed: and The Question That Actually HelpsYou know what car you want.You know what neighbourhood… Read More »How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want
Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing (And What That’s Actually Telling You) The deliciousness of longing is what romance novels are made… Read More »Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing
Sex Won’t Fix Your Sexless Relationship. But It Might Show You What Will. There’s a special kind of hope that lives inside the notion that… Read More »Sex Won't Fix Your Sexless Relationship, But It Might Show You What Will
What If You’ve Never Seen A Relationship Built On Love? Most of us arrive at midlife carrying relationships like old luggage — overpacked, worn at… Read More »What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?
The Unspoken Work: Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that doesn’t show up in any… Read More »Emotional Labor in Sex and Why It’s Quietly Killing Desire
Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And why this isn’t a mystery — it’s a pattern.) If you can climax easily… Read More »Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)
Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation It’s easy to think that grief and pleasure are mutually exclusive. In hard times, many of us try to… Read More »Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation
Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance (Community and Connection Focus) When the world feels like it’s falling apart, joy can feel frivolous—or even ethically complicated.… Read More »Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance
Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink, orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart