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The Orgasm Gap – Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms

  • by Cyndi
  • July 25, 2026

Why Can’t You Come During Sex? “Why can’t I come during sex?” It’s one of the most common questions I hear in my practice from… Read More »The Orgasm Gap – Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms

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Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

  • by Cyndi
  • June 21, 2026June 21, 2026

Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

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How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want

  • by Cyndi
  • June 14, 2026June 14, 2026

Why So Many Women Don’t Know What They Want in Bed: and The Question That Actually HelpsYou know what car you want.You know what neighbourhood… Read More »How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want

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Sex Won't Fix Your Sexless Relationship, But It Might Show You What Will

  • by Cyndi
  • April 21, 2026June 15, 2026

Sex Won’t Fix Your Sexless Relationship. But It Might Show You What Will. There’s a special kind of hope that lives inside the notion that… Read More »Sex Won't Fix Your Sexless Relationship, But It Might Show You What Will

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Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026July 23, 2026

Mismatched Libido: What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us “Mismatched libido” is one of the most common reasons couples feel stuck, ashamed,… Read More »Mismatched Libido What Desire in Long-Term Relationships Is Really Asking of Us

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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When Desire Fades

  • by Cyndi
  • January 6, 2026July 23, 2026

When Desire Fades: A Common Story of Sexual Disconnection Let me tell you about someone I’ll call Sarah, though her story could be anyone’s story.… Read More »When Desire Fades

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What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 23, 2025December 23, 2025

Addyi vs. Vyleesi: Pros, Cons, and What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire Low sexual desire is one of the most common reasons… Read More »What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

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The Science of Responsive Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 1, 2025July 23, 2026

The Science of Responsive Desire Why Desire Isn’t Always Spontaneous—and Why That’s Completely Normal Many people grow up believing sexual desire works like a light… Read More »The Science of Responsive Desire

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