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Erectile Dysfunction and Male Performance Anxiety: When Sex Starts to Feel Like a Test

  • by Cyndi
  • September 20, 2026September 20, 2026

Erectile dysfunction can be about much more than getting or keeping an erection. For some men, erectile dysfunction begins with a physical change. For others,… Read More »Erectile Dysfunction and Male Performance Anxiety: When Sex Starts to Feel Like a Test

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Sexual Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction and Treatment

  • by Cyndi
  • September 19, 2026September 19, 2026

Male Performance Anxiety in NYC: Sexual Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction and Treatment Male performance anxiety can make sex feel like a test. You may want… Read More »Sexual Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction and Treatment

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Why You Can Like Sex and Still Not Want It

  • by Cyndi
  • August 13, 2026August 13, 2026

Wanting Sex and Liking Sex Are Two Different Things You can like sex and not feel like having it at the same time. That contradiction… Read More »Why You Can Like Sex and Still Not Want It

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Why Can’t I Come During Sex? The Orgasm Gap and Women

  • by Cyndi
  • July 25, 2026August 7, 2026

The Orgasm Gap. Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms I  have orgasms alone, but not during sex with my partner… what’s wrong with me? It’s one… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex? The Orgasm Gap and Women

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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Rethinking Sex Addiction: Your Story Doesn’t Have to Be About Being Broken

  • by Cyndi
  • January 3, 2026January 3, 2026

Maybe it started small. A few extra hours on dating apps. Porn that went from occasional to daily. Hookups that left you feeling emptier than… Read More »Rethinking Sex Addiction: Your Story Doesn’t Have to Be About Being Broken

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How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 18, 2025July 23, 2026

How Patriachy Conquered Desire, and How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

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Getting Turned On – How Arousal Works

  • by Cyndi
  • November 25, 2025September 19, 2026

What You Need to Know About Arousal A guide to understanding your body, your desire, and the science of getting turned on Most people grow… Read More »Getting Turned On – How Arousal Works

Cyndi Darnell's uniqueness lies in her multidisciplinary approach, blending sexology, psychotherapy, and relationship counseling to provide personalized, inclusive solutions. Her emphasis on emotional intelligence, open dialogue, and evidence-based practices creates safe spaces for clients to explore intimacy without shame. Additionally, her leadership as an educator, speaker, and author extends her impact beyond private practice, making her a prominent voice in modern relationship counseling.

What They Never Taught You About Orgasms

  • by Cyndi
  • July 25, 2025July 25, 2026

What They Never Taught You About Orgasms (And Why That Isn’t Your Fault) Most of us grew up learning almost nothing about pleasure. We learned… Read More »What They Never Taught You About Orgasms

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