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The Orgasm Gap – Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms

  • by Cyndi
  • July 25, 2026

Why Can’t You Come During Sex? “Why can’t I come during sex?” It’s one of the most common questions I hear in my practice from… Read More »The Orgasm Gap – Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms

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What Does It Mean To ‘Feel My Feelings’?

  • by Cyndi
  • July 22, 2026July 22, 2026

How To Process Your Emotions One of the most common pieces of advice in self-help culture is that you need to feel your feelings in… Read More »What Does It Mean To ‘Feel My Feelings’?

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Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed

  • by Cyndi
  • July 6, 2026July 6, 2026

When Sex Keeps the Peace: Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed Saying yes to sex when you’re not especially into is… Read More »Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed

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Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

  • by Cyndi
  • June 21, 2026June 21, 2026

Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

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How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want

  • by Cyndi
  • June 14, 2026June 14, 2026

Why So Many Women Don’t Know What They Want in Bed: and The Question That Actually HelpsYou know what car you want.You know what neighbourhood… Read More »How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want

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The Question That Changes Everything

  • by Cyndi
  • May 31, 2026

How To Build Intimacy Most of us have had the same exchange so many times it barely registers anymore. Someone asks how you are. You… Read More »The Question That Changes Everything

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Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing

  • by Cyndi
  • May 10, 2026May 10, 2026

Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing (And What That’s Actually Telling You) The deliciousness of longing is what romance novels are made… Read More »Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing

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What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?

  • by Cyndi
  • April 4, 2026June 15, 2026

What If You’ve Never Seen A Relationship Built On Love? Most of us arrive at midlife carrying relationships like old luggage — overpacked, worn at… Read More »What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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