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Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026February 1, 2026

Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink,  orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss

  • by Cyndi
  • January 10, 2026January 13, 2026

Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss When we talk about grief, we often focus on tears, anger, and the hollow ache of absence. What… Read More »Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss

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Starting Over. Dating After Divorce in NYC

  • by Cyndi
  • January 9, 2026January 9, 2026

Starting Over: Dating After Divorce in NYC So you’re divorced and thinking about dating again in New York City (or any other place for that… Read More »Starting Over. Dating After Divorce in NYC

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When Desire Fades

  • by Cyndi
  • January 6, 2026July 23, 2026

When Desire Fades: A Common Story of Sexual Disconnection Let me tell you about someone I’ll call Sarah, though her story could be anyone’s story.… Read More »When Desire Fades

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I Don’t Like Sex. What’s Wrong With Me?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 6, 2026January 6, 2026

I don’t like sex. What’s wrong with me? Hi Cyndi, I don’t like sex. I would like to want to have to have sex but… Read More »I Don’t Like Sex. What’s Wrong With Me?

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Rethinking Sex Addiction: Your Story Doesn’t Have to Be About Being Broken

  • by Cyndi
  • January 3, 2026January 3, 2026

Maybe it started small. A few extra hours on dating apps. Porn that went from occasional to daily. Hookups that left you feeling emptier than… Read More »Rethinking Sex Addiction: Your Story Doesn’t Have to Be About Being Broken

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What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 23, 2025December 23, 2025

Addyi vs. Vyleesi: Pros, Cons, and What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire Low sexual desire is one of the most common reasons… Read More »What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

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How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 18, 2025July 23, 2026

How Patriachy Conquered Desire, and How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriarchy Conquered Desire

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