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Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

  • by Cyndi
  • June 21, 2026June 21, 2026

Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

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The Question That Changes Everything

  • by Cyndi
  • May 31, 2026

How To Build Intimacy Most of us have had the same exchange so many times it barely registers anymore. Someone asks how you are. You… Read More »The Question That Changes Everything

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Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing

  • by Cyndi
  • May 10, 2026May 10, 2026

Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing (And What That’s Actually Telling You) The deliciousness of longing is what romance novels are made… Read More »Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing

Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

  • by Cyndi
  • February 5, 2026February 5, 2026

Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation It’s easy to think that grief and pleasure are mutually exclusive. In hard times, many of us try to… Read More »Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

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Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

  • by Cyndi
  • February 3, 2026February 1, 2026

Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance (Community and Connection Focus) When the world feels like it’s falling apart, joy can feel frivolous—or even ethically complicated.… Read More »Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

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Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026February 1, 2026

Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink,  orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating

  • by Cyndi
  • January 23, 2026January 24, 2026

The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating Dating has never been simple, but today’s landscape presents unique challenges that often… Read More »The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating

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The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter

  • by Cyndi
  • January 22, 2026January 22, 2026

The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter In a culture that often elevates romantic love above all other relationships, we’ve developed… Read More »The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter

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Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss

  • by Cyndi
  • January 10, 2026January 13, 2026

Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss When we talk about grief, we often focus on tears, anger, and the hollow ache of absence. What… Read More »Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss

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