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Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

  • by Cyndi
  • February 5, 2026February 5, 2026

Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation It’s easy to think that grief and pleasure are mutually exclusive. In hard times, many of us try to… Read More »Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

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Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

  • by Cyndi
  • February 3, 2026February 1, 2026

Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance (Community and Connection Focus) When the world feels like it’s falling apart, joy can feel frivolous—or even ethically complicated.… Read More »Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

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Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026February 1, 2026

Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink,  orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating

  • by Cyndi
  • January 23, 2026January 24, 2026

The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating Dating has never been simple, but today’s landscape presents unique challenges that often… Read More »The Unspoken Challenges: Understanding Men’s Struggles in Modern Relationships, Friendships and Dating

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The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter

  • by Cyndi
  • January 22, 2026January 22, 2026

The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter In a culture that often elevates romantic love above all other relationships, we’ve developed… Read More »The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter

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Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss

  • by Cyndi
  • January 10, 2026January 13, 2026

Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss When we talk about grief, we often focus on tears, anger, and the hollow ache of absence. What… Read More »Sex and Grief: Navigating Intimacy After Loss

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What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 23, 2025December 23, 2025

Addyi vs. Vyleesi: Pros, Cons, and What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire Low sexual desire is one of the most common reasons… Read More »What to Know Before Trying Medication for Low Desire

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Understanding Anger and Rage

  • by Cyndi
  • December 12, 2025December 15, 2025

Understanding Rage: Ruth King’s Path to Emotional Healing In a world that often tells us to suppress difficult emotions, Buddhist meditation teacher Ruth King offers… Read More »Understanding Anger and Rage

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How to Be Yourself While Being Connected

  • by Cyndi
  • December 11, 2025December 13, 2025

The Paradox of Closeness: How to Be Yourself While Being Connected There’s a peculiar tension at the heart of every meaningful relationship: we long to… Read More »How to Be Yourself While Being Connected

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