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Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed

  • by Cyndi
  • July 6, 2026July 6, 2026

When Sex Keeps the Peace: Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed Saying yes to sex when you’re not especially into is… Read More »Fawning, Desire, and the Silent Bargains We Make in Bed

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Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

  • by Cyndi
  • June 21, 2026June 21, 2026

Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

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Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing

  • by Cyndi
  • May 10, 2026May 10, 2026

Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing (And What That’s Actually Telling You) The deliciousness of longing is what romance novels are made… Read More »Why Fantasy Love Feels Better Than the Real Thing

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Sex Won't Fix Your Sexless Relationship, But It Might Show You What Will

  • by Cyndi
  • April 21, 2026June 15, 2026

Sex Won’t Fix Your Sexless Relationship. But It Might Show You What Will. There’s a special kind of hope that lives inside the notion that… Read More »Sex Won't Fix Your Sexless Relationship, But It Might Show You What Will

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What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?

  • by Cyndi
  • April 4, 2026June 15, 2026

What If You’ve Never Seen A Relationship Built On Love? Most of us arrive at midlife carrying relationships like old luggage — overpacked, worn at… Read More »What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?

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8 Ways To Make Your Relationships Better Than Ever

  • by Cyndi
  • March 23, 2026

What Actually Keeps a Relationship Running Relationship advice is everywhere, and most of it is either painfully obvious or built on the quiet assumption that… Read More »8 Ways To Make Your Relationships Better Than Ever

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The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship

  • by Cyndi
  • March 1, 2026March 2, 2026

The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship Sarah sat in my office, watching Mike fumble through another question about his feelings.… Read More »The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship

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Why Great Relationships Start With Yourself

  • by Cyndi
  • February 26, 2026February 27, 2026

The Foundation You Can’t Skip: Why Great Relationships Start With Yourself There’s a romantic idea most of us grew up with — that the right… Read More »Why Great Relationships Start With Yourself

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Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

  • by Cyndi
  • February 3, 2026February 1, 2026

Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance (Community and Connection Focus) When the world feels like it’s falling apart, joy can feel frivolous—or even ethically complicated.… Read More »Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

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Rethinking Sex Addiction: Your Story Doesn’t Have to Be About Being Broken

  • by Cyndi
  • January 3, 2026January 3, 2026

Maybe it started small. A few extra hours on dating apps. Porn that went from occasional to daily. Hookups that left you feeling emptier than… Read More »Rethinking Sex Addiction: Your Story Doesn’t Have to Be About Being Broken

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