What Is Sex Therapy and Sex Coaching?
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Is Sex Therapy a real thing?
 YES!
What about sex coaches?
People want to experience more from their sex lives. More passion. More bravery. More clarity. More confidence.
Being able to get useful, practical, reliable information about sex and to talk about sex in a safe and confidential environment, free of shame and judgement is an important part of learning about just how liberating great sex can be.Â
What is Sexology?
Most of us have no idea how sex works. After all, why would we? We don’t get taught it at school, and when we do it’s mostly useless information about making babies and terrifying diseases, and very little to do with why most of us have sex – which may not be a surprise to you to learn it’s usually never to have a baby!
Sexology is the clinical study of human sexuality, beyond reproduction. Sexologists, sex therapists and sex coaches study human sexuality through social, cultural, personal, biological, clinical, medical, economic, racial and political lenses just to name a few.
Learning to understand sex through these lenses and our own motivations is part of developing a more confident relationship with it. After all, when we know why we are doing something, it’s easier to stay interested, motivated and develop the skills we need to get to where we want to go. This could involve discussing everything including:
- physical experiences
- deeper awareness of how your body works
- mental and emotional processing
- changing your mindset
- understanding (your or your partners’) fantasies and turn-ons
- examining relationship dynamics
- improving communication skills
- learning how to touch and be touched
- how you can alter your approach to working with problems and finding solutions
- expanding your sexual knowledge
- education & myth-busting
- practical skills for white–hot sex
How I Work
Sex, life and relationships are the center of our lives. This means I work with you in the context of your life – not just your sex life.
I have had the opportunity to discuss sexuality at an intimate level with literally thousands of people across around the world. This has lead me to the conclusion that sexuality is not separate from who we are, it’s part of who we are. Seeing the totality of you, as whole person, is vital when exploring sexuality.
I can support and facilitate your journey through complex sexual and emotional terrain helping you feel more embodied, connected and present to your erotic potential.
Values I Hold
My values around sex therapy and sexuality mean that I see clients from a variety of backgrounds and orientations. They are people who want more from life, sex and relationships.
I believe there is no ‘right and wrong‘ when it comes to sexuality, practice or influence. I listen to you and together we’ll discuss how you feel about sexuality and identify where your values are and you might need help and expert guidance.
While I know a lot about sex and sexuality, I am not an expert in YOU, so together we can make our time as useful and relevant to your specific situation as possible.
I abide by the notion of safe, sane and consensual and I want you to have the best sex you possibly can! After all, I hear people discuss their sex lives with me day in and day out (in all its glorious forms), it’s very likely I’ve heard it all before and many practices and problems are more common than you might think!
What Happens?
My role is to help you have the best sex you can have. We’ll talk about what you’re experiencing, feeling and thinking about sex. Together we can identify what’s working for you and what’s not. We’ll look at how you want your sex and relationships to be and develop ways to make those changes. Next, we’ll help you work out the best approach to working through these issues with a combination of discussion and some solutions or practical activities / homework or exciting embodiment practices to get you more connected to your body and your sexuality.
What Sexology Is Not
People sometimes still feel confused about what this is and is and is not, even after reading this description. This makes sense in so many ways because we live in a world that is often so uncomfortable discussing and exploring sexuality and the feelings that go with it. Sexology consultations are not a passive experience. This means that you as a client are actively engaged in the process every step of the way. What you bring to the sessions determines where we go, what we do and how things unfold; at your speed, at your pace. You are invited to really participate in thinking, doing, feeling and compassionate self inquiry in order to re-frame your understanding of sex and sexuality. You will have the chance to make the changes required to solve the problems you struggle with in your life.
Our sessions are a deep, engaging process that requires your commitment and attention, to explore outside the square in order to experience core change at the levels you seek. The more you engage in the process the more you will get out of it.
These sessions exist in conjunction with relationship work if required.
No need to be shy or embarrassed. I look forward to hearing from you.
