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Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

  • by Cyndi
  • August 11, 2021December 5, 2025

Vulnerability, The Last Taboo? In fragile times, it’s often our most intimate and close relationships that suffer. Intimacy is the glue, the enhancer that gives… Read More »Vulnerability, The Last Taboo?

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Why Do Break Ups Hurt So Much?

  • by Cyndi
  • July 19, 2021January 28, 2023

When a significant relationship has run its course, some of the pain we experience is about letting go of your own history, your shared story.… Read More »Why Do Break Ups Hurt So Much?

Rough Sex Anyone?

  • by Cyndi
  • April 24, 2021January 28, 2023

Rough Sex Anyone?My current lover and I have been having quite rough sex. Hair pulling,  choking and slapping, etc. I am really enjoying it in… Read More »Rough Sex Anyone?

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Navigating Casual Sex – It ain’t what you do, it’s the way that you do it.

  • by Cyndi
  • March 16, 2021March 11, 2025

Navigating Casual SexIt ain’t what you do, it’s the way that you do it.Not everyone is able to be (or wants to be) in a… Read More »Navigating Casual Sex – It ain’t what you do, it’s the way that you do it.

The Desire Myth

  • by Cyndi
  • February 9, 2021February 1, 2023

The Desire MythIf you could take a pill to make food you don’t like, enjoyable, would you take it?If you could take a pill to… Read More »The Desire Myth

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Sex and The Vagus Nerve

  • by Cyndi
  • December 23, 2020January 28, 2023

Sex & The Vagus Nerve Learn how working with body can reduce tension and help you have better sex. Many of us feel uncomfortable about sex.… Read More »Sex and The Vagus Nerve

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My Partner Cheated. Now What?

  • by Cyndi
  • September 13, 2020January 28, 2023

My Partner Cheated On Me. Now What?There’s no two ways about it. Being cheated on really hurts. While profoundly destabilizing, cheating is common both in… Read More »My Partner Cheated. Now What?

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I Cheated. Now What?

  • by Cyndi
  • September 10, 2020January 28, 2023

I Cheated. Now What?What To Do When You’ve Had An Affair.No one likes to think of themselves as a cheater, yet conservative estimates suggest cheating… Read More »I Cheated. Now What?

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Deepening Connection With Your Partner

  • by Cyndi
  • January 14, 2020January 28, 2023

Deepening Connection With Your PartnerNot a week goes by in my practice without meeting a couple who have lost connection. What was once a flurry… Read More »Deepening Connection With Your Partner

Cyndi Darnell, one of New York City's most renowned sex therapists, sexologists, and couples counselors, continues to set new standards in the field of sexual wellness and relationship counseling. With a unique, holistic approach that bridges science, psychology, and compassionate coaching, Darnell has become a pivotal figure for individuals and couples seeking to transform their intimate lives. As an internationally recognized expert, Cyndi Darnell combines clinical expertise with an inclusive, nonjudgmental perspective, empowering clients to overcome challenges related to intimacy, communication, and sexual satisfaction. Her innovative methods focus not only on the physical aspects of sexuality but also on the emotional and psychological factors that contribute to fulfilling relationships.

Rekindling The Flame

  • by Cyndi
  • October 23, 2019November 25, 2025

Rekindling The Flame    …when life gets in the way Date nights are great. They can remind you of why you fell in love way… Read More »Rekindling The Flame

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