NYC somatic sex therapist, sexologist & relationship therapy
Rekindle the Spark, Heal Trauma, Create Deeper Relationships & Rediscover Desire
Sex, When You Don't Feel Like It:
The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire
From the Vatican to Vegas, From Disney to PornHub, we’ve been tricked into believing love and sex are like a hand in a glove, though few of us experience them that way.
Discover unshakable confidence and the best ways for you to create the most satisfying sex, but more importantly, how to keep it that way.
New York City
"My mission is to create safe, affirming spaces where clients can explore their desires, challenges, and relationships without shame or judgment. True intimacy begins with honest communication, self-awareness, and compassion—both for oneself and others."
What is Somatic Sexology?
Somatic sexology is an approach to sexual health and pleasure that focuses on the connection between the body and mind. The word "somatic" comes from the Greek word soma, meaning body. This practice helps individuals and couples explore their sexuality through body awareness, self - partner touch, breathwork, movement, and mindfulness.
Learn More About Somatic Sexology
🌿 Key Principles of Somatic Sexology:
1. Body Awareness: It encourages tuning into physical sensations, emotions, and pleasure, rather than just focusing on thoughts or performance.
2. Mindfulness: Practitioners often use meditation, breathing exercises, and grounding techniques to help people feel more present in their bodies.
3. Healing Trauma: It can be helpful for individuals healing from sexual trauma, shame, or negative body image by creating a safe space for exploration.
4. Consent & Boundaries: Sessions emphasize clear communication, ensuring participants feel comfortable and respected at all times.
5. Pleasure & Education: It’s not just about fixing problems but also about discovering new ways to enjoy intimacy and connection.
🤲 What Happens in a Session?
- Sessions might include guided breathwork, gentle self /partner-touch (grounded in consent), movement exercises, or simply discussing & exploring body-based experiences.
- Every session is tailored to individual / couples' comfort levels and goals.
💡 Who Can Benefit?
- Individuals or couples struggling with intimacy issues, body confidence, or sexual trauma.
- People wanting to deepen their connection to their bodies and enhance pleasure.
- Anyone curious about exploring their sexuality in a safe, supportive environment.
Create A Life Worth Loving
If you're struggling with life, intimacy, relationships, menopause or sex, you've come to the right place. Combining the very best in the world of both modern and traditional sex therapy, our work together is tailored to support you in creating the best sex and greatest relationships ever.
Imagine having the confidence, relationships, freedom, pleasure, intimacy and passion you long for. Imagine easy connections, less struggle, deeper intimacy and amazing sex. All of this is doable and learnable.
A psychotherapist by training in my native Australia, I am a clinical sexologist, qualified sex coach, certified sex therapist & couple's and relationships counselor offering:
- counseling & coaching for individuals / relationships / sex therapy
- holistic, embodiment counseling & coaching for individuals / relationships / sex therapy
- trauma healing / healing the erotic
- healing wounds from family of origin
- somatic sexology
- online courses for individuals & couples / relationships
- rich embodiment coaching & counseling for couples / relationships /marriages
- couple's intimacy and embodiment retreats / workshops in New York
- plus online video consulting around the USA and across the world
I serve individuals, traditional couples & people in open, polyamorous, kinky and non-monogamous relationships with my affirming, compassionate and no B.S. approach.
LGBTQIA+, gender expansive folks, straight identities & all faiths welcome (including no faith).
Sex Therapy, Relationships Counseling & Sex Coaching
Everyone needs support in creating and sustaining meaningful lives, strong relationships , empowered communities and great sex. Join me via video from anywhere in the world.
Online Courses
Programs for individuals and partners who want to experience more pleasure, joy and empowerment. Learn how your body works, how to manage changes in intimacy and differing drives, increase connection, learn massage techniques, overcome performance anxiety, increase communication and so much more.
Community Program
Are you asking yourself
“How do I repair my heart, change my patterns, improve the quality of my relationships and learn more about sex?”
Join the Community Program to level up your life and create a life worth loving. Learn how to stop tolerating meaningless interactions and start creating more secure, fulfilling and emotionally rich connections at home at work and in the bedroom.
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"We - without hesitation - recommend Cyndi Darnell to everyone! Couples or singles. Cyndi will teach you and help you find that something inside yourself that you didn’t even know was missing.” – Sam
