Why Chaos Feels Like Love
Have you ever had a relationship that felt more intense than anything you’d experienced before—and yet, looking back, you know it wasn’t good for you?… Read More »Why Chaos Feels Like Love
Have you ever had a relationship that felt more intense than anything you’d experienced before—and yet, looking back, you know it wasn’t good for you?… Read More »Why Chaos Feels Like Love
Emotional Capacity vs. Willingness vs. Emotional Availability vs. Emotional Labor You can be fully willing to work on your relationship and still lack the capacity… Read More »When They Can’t Open Up: Emotional Capacity vs. Emotional Availability
The Orgasm Gap. Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms I have orgasms alone, but not during sex with my partner… what’s wrong with me? It’s one… Read More »Why Can’t I Come During Sex? The Orgasm Gap and Women
How To Process Your Emotions One of the most common pieces of advice in self-help culture is that you need to feel your feelings and… Read More »What Does It Mean To ‘Feel My Feelings’?
When Emptiness After Sex Feels Lonely You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually be with someone… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty, Even When Nothing Went Wrong
Why So Many Women Don’t Know What They Want in Bed: and The Question That Actually Helps You know what car you want. You know… Read More »How To Ask For What You Want In Bed When You Don’t Know What You Want
What If You’ve Never Seen A Relationship Built On Love? Most of us arrive at midlife carrying relationships like old luggage — overpacked, worn at… Read More »What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?
The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship Sarah sat in my office, watching Mike fumble through another question about his feelings.… Read More »The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship
The Foundation You Can’t Skip: Why Great Relationships Start With Yourself There’s a romantic idea most of us grew up with — that the right… Read More »Why Great Relationships Start With Yourself
At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look