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Fix My Sexless Marriage

Sex Won't Fix Your Sexless Relationship, But It Might Show You What Will

  • by Cyndi
  • April 21, 2026April 21, 2026

There’s a particular kind of hope that lives inside the thought if we could just have more sex, things would get better. It feels logical… Read More »Sex Won't Fix Your Sexless Relationship, But It Might Show You What Will

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The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship

  • by Cyndi
  • March 1, 2026March 2, 2026

The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship Sarah sat in my office, watching Mike fumble through another question about his feelings.… Read More »The Capacity Gap: Why Willingness Isn’t Enough to Sustain Your Relationship

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Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)

  • by Cyndi
  • February 19, 2026

Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And why this isn’t a mystery — it’s a pattern.) If you can climax easily… Read More »Why You Can Orgasm Alone But Not With a Partner (And What to Do About It)

Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

  • by Cyndi
  • February 5, 2026February 5, 2026

Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation It’s easy to think that grief and pleasure are mutually exclusive. In hard times, many of us try to… Read More »Pleasure, Grief, and Nervous System Regulation

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Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

  • by Cyndi
  • February 3, 2026February 1, 2026

Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance (Community and Connection Focus) When the world feels like it’s falling apart, joy can feel frivolous—or even ethically complicated.… Read More »Pleasure as Ethical Action and Resistance

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Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026February 1, 2026

Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink,  orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026January 27, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter

  • by Cyndi
  • January 22, 2026January 22, 2026

The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter In a culture that often elevates romantic love above all other relationships, we’ve developed… Read More »The Vital Importance of Friendship: Why Strong Bonds Beyond Romance Matter

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How Patriachy Conquered Desire

  • by Cyndi
  • December 18, 2025January 3, 2026

How Patriachy Conquered Desire, And How To Get It Back If your body says no but your mind says you should, that’s not desire. That’s… Read More »How Patriachy Conquered Desire

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