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The Orgasm Gap – Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms

  • by Cyndi
  • July 25, 2026

Why Can’t You Come During Sex? “Why can’t I come during sex?” It’s one of the most common questions I hear in my practice from… Read More »The Orgasm Gap – Why Women Aren’t Having Orgasms

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What Does It Mean To ‘Feel My Feelings’?

  • by Cyndi
  • July 22, 2026July 22, 2026

How To Process Your Emotions One of the most common pieces of advice in self-help culture is that you need to feel your feelings in… Read More »What Does It Mean To ‘Feel My Feelings’?

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Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

  • by Cyndi
  • June 21, 2026June 21, 2026

Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong You put enormous energy into becoming someone worth wanting. Almost none into learning how to actually… Read More »Why Sex Feels Empty Even When Nothing Went Wrong

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What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?

  • by Cyndi
  • April 4, 2026June 15, 2026

What If You’ve Never Seen A Relationship Built On Love? Most of us arrive at midlife carrying relationships like old luggage — overpacked, worn at… Read More »What If You’ve Never Seen a Relationship Built on Love?

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Why Great Relationships Start With Yourself

  • by Cyndi
  • February 26, 2026February 27, 2026

The Foundation You Can’t Skip: Why Great Relationships Start With Yourself There’s a romantic idea most of us grew up with — that the right… Read More »Why Great Relationships Start With Yourself

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Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

  • by Cyndi
  • February 1, 2026February 1, 2026

Thinking About Pleasure While the World Is Falling Apart Last night, I found myself on my couch, watching the sky turn shades of pink,  orange… Read More »Imagining Joy While the World Is Falling Apart

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What Happens After You Name The Edge?

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

What Happens After You Name The Edge? This is part 2 of the article called At The Edge of Wanting; Women, Queer Desire and the… Read More »What Happens After You Name The Edge?

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At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

  • by Cyndi
  • January 25, 2026July 23, 2026

At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look There’s a moment many women and queer people recognize but rarely say… Read More »At The Edge Of Wanting: Women, Queering Desire, And The Courage To Look

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Understanding Loneliness and Shame in Relationships

  • by Cyndi
  • December 10, 2025February 19, 2026

The Quiet Ache: Understanding Loneliness and Shame in Relationships One of the most disorienting experiences in life is feeling profoundly lonely while lying next to… Read More »Understanding Loneliness and Shame in Relationships

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Beyond the Bedroom: How Polyamory Connects to Broader Social Contexts

  • by Cyndi
  • December 5, 2025December 5, 2025

Beyond the Bedroom: How Polyamory Connects to Broader Social Justice When people think about polyamory, they usually focus on the interpersonal—the jealousy, the scheduling conflicts,… Read More »Beyond the Bedroom: How Polyamory Connects to Broader Social Contexts

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