10 Essential Tips for a Successful Open Relationship and Practicing Polyamory
One of the biggest changes I have seen in the LGBTIQA+ communities is the interest in and increased visibility of open relationships. Open relationships inclduing polyamory, ethical non monogamy and other relationship diversities are romantic and/or sexual relationships that involve seeing one or more people either together as a couple or separately as individuals. There are many versions of open relating also called CNM (consensual non-monogamy) that involve everything from casual flings for sex only, through to deep, full, loving emotional connections often called polyamory. The core ingredient that distinguishes CNM, polyamory and beyond from 'cheating' , is the emphasis on willingness and consent.
Navigating an open relationship or practicing polyamory can be deeply fulfilling, but it requires strong communication, trust, and self-awareness. Whether you're exploring ethical non-monogamy for the first time or refining your relationship dynamics, these tips can help you build healthy, joyful connections.
❤️ 1. Communicate Honestly and Often
Open relationships thrive on clear, honest communication. Share your feelings, needs, and boundaries regularly. Practice active listening and approach conversations with empathy.
📝 2. Set Boundaries That Work for Everyone
Discuss what feels comfortable and what doesn’t. Boundaries aren’t about control—they’re about ensuring everyone feels safe and respected. Revisit them as your relationships evolve.
🕰 3. Prioritize Quality Time
Balancing multiple relationships can stretch your time and energy. Schedule regular quality time with each partner to nurture your connections and maintain intimacy.
🧠 4. Manage Jealousy with Self-Awareness
Jealousy is natural, even in polyamory. Instead of ignoring it, explore the root cause—often tied to insecurity, fear, or unmet needs—and communicate openly with your partners.
🤝 5. Practice Ethical Non-Monogamy
Ethical non-monogamy means transparency, respect, and consent from all parties. Avoid assumptions, and ensure everyone involved understands the relationship dynamics.
💬 6. Create a Safe Space for Difficult Conversations
Not everything will go perfectly—conflicts will arise. Approach tough talks with kindness, avoid blame, and focus on finding solutions together.
💞 7. Embrace Compersion
Compersion—the joy you feel when a partner experiences happiness with someone else—can be a powerful antidote to jealousy. Cultivate it by celebrating your partner's connections rather than seeing them as threats.
🔄 8. Stay Flexible and Open to Change
Relationships evolve, as do feelings and boundaries. Regularly check in with yourself and your partners to ensure your arrangement continues to work for everyone.
⚖️ 9. Balance Independence and Togetherness
Polyamory encourages autonomy, but healthy relationships also need connection. Find a balance between personal freedom and showing up for your partners.
🧘 10. Prioritize Self-Care
Juggling multiple relationships can be emotionally taxing. Make time for rest, reflection, and personal well-being to maintain balance and avoid burnout.
If you are thinking of opening up your relationship or would like support in managing some of the complexities that can accompany relationships of all kinds, get in touch with me.