Sep 242014

logoToo long the exclusive realm of men, women are successfully claiming the world of pornography as their own, and shaping it in a direction more suited to their desires. The rise of feminist pornography highlights the growing demand for explicit portrayals of sex by women, and for women.

Sex therapist Cyndi Darnell has devoted her life to the pursuit of pleasure, assisting countless women in realigning their sexual expectations. Award-winning feminist erotic filmmaker Anna Brownfield has changed the nature of sex on film for an entire generation of young Australian women. Gala Vanting is an erotic imagist, who retains ownership of her sexuality through photography and short films that challenge what it means to be a sexual being. CEO of the Eros Association, and the leader of the Australian Sex Party, Fiona Patten also joins the panel.

Together, these three women discuss feminist pornography as an expression of female sexuality. Honest, revealing and illuminating, this event gives conventional notions of pornography a firm and long overdue slap.

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Sep 082014

Cyndi talks with Jenna Price about making sex work for you. Click image for full story. Portfolio-CanberraTimes-c

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Aug 282014

new dailyCyndi talks with the New Daily about how having a little space in a relationship can actually help fuel erotic fires and strengthen a relationship. Click image  for the full story.

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Jul 022014

The more I see, read and experience through the lens of my work regarding feminism, sex and intimacy the more I am convinced it is crucial to the well being of everyone on the planet. Everyone is affected by feminism! (Whether they realise it or not.) Women reduced to gormless sex objects with little to no agency is still part of a mainstream sexual script. Men reduced to gormless sex predators incapable of distinguishing thought from feeling is still part of mainstream sexual script. Women whose eroticism is expected to be as infantile as that of new born babies matched with a male interpretation of sexuality that is brutish, cavalier and constricted. Anyone who sits outside this narrow mould is fucked over by it. And quite frankly, that’s everyone I’ve ever met! The sexual status quo serves no one in its current form. We all suffer under this current system. So yeah, we need feminism in the bedroom as much as anywhere else.

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Jun 262014

Cyndi chats with Jon Faine on Revolutions ABC 774 about changing attitudes to sex and relationships. Recorded June 18. 2014. Click image for audio.774

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Jun 262014

For new mothers, sex can be the last thing on their minds. It’s about honoring what the body needs. Click image for link to articleessential baby

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Jun 192014


What is it about sex that is so terrifying? Why do we spend billions either pursuing it or prohibiting it? Sex is everywhere, or so it seems.

In an age where we have virtually unfettered access to any kind of sex we want, we are more riddled with social conservatism, isolation, depression and anxiety than ever. In an age where sex rules the web but not our prime-time discussions, it’s time we stepped up the cultural landscape and got a bit real with ourselves when it comes to the power, necessity and function of sex.

Cyndi Darnell − sex therapist and sex educator − tackles the elephant in the room. Filmed November 28, 2013.

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Jun 172014

Sexy, Diverse and Inspiring. Welcome to the world of Feminist Porn. Click image to link to article in Lip Magazine
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May 212014

Rohana Hayes from RAW interviews Cyndi about being a Sex Therapist, the myths, the rumours and the state of play when it comes to great sex! Click image for storyIMGP24992s

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May 162014

Cyndi talks with Dani and Amanda Lambros on Open Your Mind 92.9 in Perth, about May being Masturbation Month. Benefits of masturbation and why it’s great! Recorded May 12. 2014.

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Apr 092014

Sex Positivity, can mean many things to many people.

 To me, being sex- positive means I embrace the notions of pleasure and sexuality in a positive light. I see sex and pleasure as integral parts of the human condition, and not something that we should be ashamed of or feel embarrassed about – even when it causes distress.

  Being sex-positive means not only having an interest in sex, but also educating yourself and others about what sex and pleasure can be. It does not mean forcing one’s opinions upon others nor does it mean casting a judgement on those who disagree as therefore being ”sex negative”. It’s about stepping beyond binary understandings of sex and gender- moving away from ideas around sex that are intrinsically subjugated into dualistic Judao / Christian notions, to more inclusive models of expression that are not dependent upon collective agreement; but rather visceral, mental and emotional liberation and consent.  When we only ever see black and white when it comes to sex, we will always miss the dawning of the rainbow.

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Apr 082014

The AgeHow do I know if my partner is REALLY enjoying sex with me? Cyndi talks with  sex columnist Maureen Mathews from ”About Last Night”. March 23rd. 2014. Click image for full story

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Mar 112014

In the West we confuse Beauty with Value, Worthiness and Relevance. Yet unlike these ‘things’, Beauty is fickle, subjective and impermanent. But Passion ( Beauty’s lesser valued counterpart and source of inspiration) is cultivated and refined over a lifetime. Passion sustains us when the pursuit of perfection decays.

When we limit our value to unsustainable ideals we will forever feel empty. Focus your attention on your intention. Where you spend energy, growth happens.

Cultivate your Passion as a pathway to Beauty that nourishes the totality of who you are.

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Mar 102014

Request for in depth interviews –  My Book! Update

Thanks to those who contributed with the initial request for info about my book. Here is phase two!

 The book is about the struggles we face with sex and sexuality and what’s really at the heart of them. Sometimes its not quite what we are lead to believe it is- and I am constructing a book that explains and explores ways of living with,  celebrating and embracing your sexuality- what ever that may look like for you. The book will cover our relationships –  between the body, mind and emotions and draw on contemporary sex positive theories, practice and personal development as well as some new founded science and techniques to help explore and understand the depths of human sexuality from a layperson’s perspective.


So many people want to know more about sex and sexuality or struggle with different aspects of it. By participating in this interview- you are contributing to helping others unravel the mysteries of their own sexuality and their relationship to it. This is community service in the highest degree!

The first part of the interview is just basic demographics. The following questions are more self- reflective questions about your own personal experiences within yourself. I have chosen open ended questions as each person’s experience of sex is unique. I invite you to include information relevant to the question being asked. At the end of the interview – please include information for me to contact you for further in depth verbal interviewing if you would like to be included. ( this is not necessary)

By filling in this document Individual Interview_ with Cyndi Darnell you acknowledge that the information is for (possible) publication purposes. The information will not be used to identify you without your explicit consent. This means ONLY the information you provide  (with the exception of contact info which will NEVER be disclosed) will be used –  e.g. not your actual name etc unless you want that!

Where possible try to be succinct in your answers. If your story lends itself to further exploration – please indicate at the end if I have permission to contact you further via phone or Skype.

Please complete in Word format and email back to me with BOOK in the subject line. If you cannot use Word – please copy and paste the questions into an email and respond that way.

With Deepest Gratitude



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Feb 242014

Its the intersection between thought and feeling that rattles us so deeply about sex . Not just the acts – but ALL that it is, personal, physical, political, emotional spiritual and beyond. Its this land of the unknown that invites us to examine and be present to the fullness of who we are. But more importantly all that it lets us FEEL. I see, hear and feel people’s struggles with this daily.

On one hand we FEEL the call to embrace it with everything we have and on the other we reject it, favouring logic and reason over the deeper murmurs of the heart and soul.

There will always be ”reasons” (excuses) to keep Eros at bay, being too busy, too tired or too fearful – will always be constants. But what if sexuality were NOT an EITHER / OR situation? What if…………sexuality’s natural home was actually between the many components of our otherwise solid identity? What if sexuality was in fact, a kind of friction caused by the different parts of ourselves brushing against each other as we go through life? What if the very reasons we remain estranged from our deeper callings were in fact at the heart of our eroticism?

Sexuality is the mortar that holds together the bricks of our identity, our persona, our form. To know who we are within, to see it and let it be seen – is to know what binds and keeps us whole.

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